Relationships Do long-term, no-strings sex arrangements ever work? Can you have sex with someone for years without dropping the L-bomb or calling what you have a relationship? That way, if I die before I finish I know how it comes out. That, my friend, is a dark side. For Rachel, a bisexual woman in her early 30s, the answer is an enthusiastic yes, yes, yes! I think you have to be quite emotionally mature to be able to accept something for what it is, without trying to turn it into something more, or denigrate it for not being something it is not. You might end up spending most of your time with this person, making decisions about your life based on their input, using them as your main source of emotional support. We usually see each other once a fortnight maximum, and the vibe is always quite intimate — even though it is understood that it will never be any more than what it is. You never get past that honeymoon period.