But even so, she's been on the receiving end of what she calls singleness microaggressions — like when someone at church asks, Why aren't you married? A defence against the fear of missing out No one is immune to feelings of loneliness, anxiety and the fear of unmet expectations, and Dr Moore says her Christian faith has offered a defence against all these things. Supplied: Natasha Moore Dr Moore has also developed rich friendships in the Church where her marital status, or theirs, have not mattered. Over the last decade, she's set aside time every week to catch up and pray with her two best friends, who are both at different stages in their lives. They see a lot of themselves in the network of spinsters and widows, or surplus women, popularised by Dorothy Sayers's detective novels, who help protagonist Lord Peter Wimsey solve crimes.
This article is more than 2 years old. At Middlebury College, I lived a double life. On the apparent, I was successful. I was surrounded by diverse, intellectual friends. I led a popular student website and was active in the arts and exercise.