We asked the dudes at guyspeak. Guys are always thinking about sex, so what do I look for before I get intimate with a guy? That's why taking it slowly before hopping into bed, as you are doing, is a wise move if it's a partner you are looking for and not quick sex. Go you! Of course, there's no way to know for certain what he wants until he shows his hand, but there are some things you can watch for. A guy who is truly into you and looking for a relationship acts differently than a guy who just wants quick sex. Behavior is key.