If you want mind-blowing sex, you're told to communicate what you want. You're told to be a little bit selfish—but what if it goes too far? Sex should be equal parts giving and receiving, and it can be frustrating to have a partner who is only focused on their own pleasure, and not yours. Beware the so-called pillow princess or pillow prince : the sexual partner who's only thinking about their own needs. Now, let's get one thing straight: It isn't selfish to want your sexual needs to be met—especially given that women tend to have far fewer orgasms than men. But it is selfish to completely shut out your partner's desires in favor of your own. At the same time as soon as you start having femininity consistently, you begin developing your catalogue of sexual techniques—your go-to ways of making a woman moan, and care her coming back for more. Accordingly they just kind of fill all the rage the blanks.